This one is for the boys:
If you want a quick fix for how girls (and I guess other dudes, too) perceive you, you may simply have to pay attention to your gait. There’s nothing more subtle but it really makes all the difference in the world. Just learn how to walk like you’re not completely awkward.
There have been too many times that I wondered what it is about a guy that makes him a total non-prospect, only to figure out that it’s his manner of walking… mostly that it can’t be described as walking, but - ugh - shuffling. It is entirely possible that I am being nitpicky here, but keep an open mind.
Seeing an otherwise respectable grown man in his 20s or 30s dragging his feet, shuffling around, taking micro-steps, looking chronically aimless or with an uncharacteristically dainty walk (et cetera, et cetera) is pretty unfortunate. Can you imagine if off the court, Kobe baby-steps his way into a night club or press conference, arms limp at his sides and head hung low? Barf. I don’t care how great you look, if you walk around like you could be the least noticeable person in a room, you probably will be.
I mean, there is a lot to be said for swagger. The word might connote a certain arrogance, but who cares? If you’re going for the cool loner thing, maybe swagger isn’t the way to go, but James Dean-ing it most definitely does not include the shuffle. Know how to move your arms when you walk. Walk with purpose. Walk like you’re on a runway. (Okay, maybe that’s just a girl thing.) Strut if you must. Just don’t walk like a child dragging his GD blankie around. I’m telling you because this can only help you. PLEASE stop with the shuffle. Just… stop it.
